Hi gorgeous!
(Drum roll…) Welcome, welcome, welcome to my very first blog post!
I’m very proud to be starting out on this journey with you.
So, what’s this all about anyway?
Well, I began my new journey as a hypnosis coach earlier this year and this is my blog and newsletter relating to it.
This is the point where you might be asking yourself, “What the heck is hypnosis coaching?!”, and I usually explain it like this:
Hypnosis coaching is fast and effective life coaching using hypnosis to reach your subconscious mind (your mind’s real boss to make real changes).
I absolutely LOVE my new calling! I feel like I get as much out of each session with my clients as they do with me (judging from the feedback).
Anyway, the topic of this week’s blog post is
“Who makes you feel good?”
It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently.
And, as is often the case, I had a great example pop into my life this morning.
I bumped into a friend I haven’t seen for ages while I was out with my dog. My friend had an hour to kill before an appointment and I jumped at the excuse to carry on procrastinating writing my blog, so I naturally invited her over for a cuppa!
In that hour we talked openly and honestly about what we’re going through right now in our lives – the highs, the lows and some of the normal stuff in between.
She told me about a song she keeps hearing that reminds her of me and my son.
So we started to listen to it.
And I started to cry my eyes out.
She came over to hug me silently while I wept on her shoulder.
When the song finished, I told her what feelings came up when I heard the fitting lyrics.
She simply listened to me and made the right sympathetic noises.
I felt great relief to let go of what I had been bottling up and pushing aside.
I felt safe and accepted.
After she left, I realised how lucky I am to have her in my life.
I can be open with her. She makes me feel good and I have a kind of afterglow feeling for a while when we’ve gone our separate ways.
The thing is, she doesn’t try to fix me.
And she doesn’t offer unsolicited advice to try to make me feel better.
She doesn’t judge me.
She doesn’t leave me with an unsettling feeling.
Unlike most people I’m close to.
When they’ve asked how I am and I’ve trusted them and myself enough to be open about what’s going on in my life and how I’m currently feeling.
And they just knock me down with advice, judgement, criticism, incomprehension, distraction.
Try to quickly smooth it all out and paper over the cracks.
Leave me with a bitter taste long after the conversation is over.
So, let’s be honest – how many people in our life can we honestly say make us feel good? Three, maybe four, tops?
But hang on, we’re forgetting one other very important person who can make you feel good!
Someone who can love you just the way you are.
Can listen to you without judgement or criticism.
Even feel inside your heart.
Be kind to you and be there for you whenever you need support.
Huh, who is this mystery person??
Well, gorgeous, this person is YOU.
Next time I’m struggling or want to beat myself up for something, I’m going to remember to:
- Listen to
myself with an open mind - Not jump in with advice
- Not try to fix it
- Accept myself and my feelings as they are right now
- Make the right sympathetic noises to
myself - Feel safe leaving the wound open for a while so that it can heal in the air
- Give myself what I need (sleep, rest, a hug, an affirmation that fits the situation to pick me up, whatever).
How will you make yourself feel good next time you’re struggling? Let me know by leaving a comment!
Thank you for reading my first blog post.
If you think it’ll resonate with anyone else you know, please feel free to share it.
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Lots of love,
Suzanne xx
