We all go there occasionally. Some more frequently than others. Where, or rather what, am I talking about? The dreaded Negative Thoughts. And boy, they can really drag you down that slippery slope before you know it, can’t they?!
Of course, we’re not able to avoid negative thoughts all our lives. “Positive thinking” (whatever that is) isn’t possible all of the time. I mean, the realities of life include difficulties and even tragedies, and it’s not always possible or even appropriate to feel positive. Grief, anger and acknowledgement of loss are part of the natural range of human emotions and have their place in our lives. Often, they’re the trigger for a significant learning process. That’s a good thing, right?
What’s important is NOT to focus or dwell on them any longer than is necessary or even appropriate.
“The bottom line is that if you want to be healthy, to maintain your health to live longer, then you’ve got to discipline your mind to think appropriate thoughts as much and as often as you can.” explains Gil Boyne, Master Hypnotherapist and Teacher, in his book, “Self-Hypnosis: Key To Your Inner Power” (p. 82).
So, what do you do when you have negative thoughts? Do you just let yourself go deeper and deeper until you get stuck in the dungeons of your mind? Or do you pretend everything’s fine on the outside but deep down you’re tearing up inside?
Having sunk into that pit, how do you remove yourself again once you’re ready to climb out?
Here are some emergency uplifts I give myself when I’m feeling challenged:
I literally have them written down on a piece of paper in a prominent place so that I can access them when I want to get myself out of a funk. I mean, when I’m down, I sometimes forget the simplest of things that make me feel better again! Is that the same for you?
Then, when I’m ready to learn from my negative thoughts and turn them around, I do one or more of the following things:
- Journaling – I write it all down as it comes and in no particular order. It’s usually a mess but it helps me to find clarity.
- Meditation – Firstly, I think of a question I want an answer to. Then I set a timer for 10 minutes, take few deep breaths and close my eyes. I let the question drift off to the back of my mind and instead concentrate on the words “inhale” while breathing in and “exhale” while breathing out. If my mind starts getting distracted, I gently pull my thoughts back to “inhale” and “exhale”. It’s amazing how inspiration and answers often pop into my mind during this exercise!
- Tapping (EFT). I use this method quite rudimentarily. I simply tap on the specific points of my face and body, saying out loud, “Even though I (insert negative thought, pattern, belief about yourself), I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Then I see what feelings come up and tap on those until I can feel the negativity lifting.
- Hypnotic programming – This is the most powerful one, I find. I have different audios on a variety of topics. Hypnotic programming replaces any negative thoughts with powerful, positive ones. Hypnotic programming is uplifting and boosts my energy levels to new heights! It calms me down, gives me hope and activates my innate qualities.
Hypnotic programming is always part of a hypnosis coaching session. Afterwards, I send my clients their own personal recording to listen to daily. This strengthens the hypnotic process that was set in motion in the session. (And if you sign up for my newsletter here, you’ll get to experience hypnotic programming with my thank you gift of a hypnotic deep relaxation audio download).
You can choose to let the negative thoughts rule your life or you can replace them with positive ones and have greater success, greater health and greater fulfilment in life. Which is it going to be?