This year marks the 20th anniversary of my first stumbling upon the book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
I didn’t know it at the time, but it was the beginning of my journey to get to know myself; I truly believe that I wouldn’t be where I am now if it hadn’t been for that little book on facing my fears.
I was 28 years old, had been living in Germany for 4 years, had just moved in with my then boyfriend (now husband) and was working freelance as a business English trainer in local companies. From the outside everything looked fine – I was a uni graduate, fulfilling my dream of living and working in Germany. I was in love and was a successful businesswoman.
However, everything looked very different on the inside.
Motivation was waning big time, I had little faith in myself or my life direction and was basically walking around with a big black cloud hanging over my head. I found it more and more difficult to get out of bed. Sometimes I would stay there all day, cancelling my classes at short notice due to “sickness”. Then I’d beat myself up because that meant I wouldn’t be earning any money. And then I’d worry about that and feel even worse.
And, boy, did I worry and deliberate about EVERYTHING back then, going round and round in circles in my head until I didn’t know what I thought anymore.
What I Learned
Feel The Fear taught me that I had all I needed inside of me. It showed me that it’s ok to have the fear because everyone has it. The book coaxed me to stop the excuses, alibis and payoffs that were crippling me. Susan encouraged me to shine a light on the fear and to overcome it. She held my hand on the journey to self-acceptance and self-love. Her book taught me many, many more things and I am so grateful to Susan for writing the book.
It also gave me the courage to seek professional help to make more sense of it all and more sense of me. I mean, if you’ve got stomach-ache, you go to a doctor. If you’ve got soul-ache, you go to a therapist. Right?
Fast forward twenty years down the line, many lessons and much learning later. I now know that hypnotherapy, (especially the type I’ve learned called Transforming Therapy™️, developed in the 1960s-1980s by master hypnotherapist and teacher, Gil Boyne), is a very fast, powerful and effective tool to get to the bottom of issues and resolve them once and for all. It has helped me quickly and effectively settle a number of fears, problems and blocks, and will always be my go-to therapy for the future.
In fact, my own healing through hypnotherapy led me to want to help other women achieve the same confidence, clarity and peace of mind that I have attained.
And do I still feel fear?
Of course I do! There are plenty of areas in my life where I come up against fear (sometimes cunningly disguised as procrastination, distraction, or a tendency to not want to leave my comfort zone). But now I have the tools to a) recognise it for what it is, and b) push through it, and c) congratulate myself on my progress until the next new fear rears its ugly head…
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